Not interested in dating anymore

How can you tell if he is just really not into you anymore?

I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.

Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.

The rest of this was just repetitive break up and make up cycles that started becoming annoying to watch. It is pretty boring if the writer had not wrapped it in comedy.

I can't stand watching this drama, cannot even finish the first episode. Han Groo and Woo Jin really hit it well..are so funny.

So, you and that new guy you are seeing are in the early stages of dating?

Or maybe you have been dating for a while now and are on the cusp of making things official by calling each other partners.

While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.

In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.

What I mean is that I like them right where they are…

I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.