I'm assuming it's how long they've been doing "no contact" (successfully)?
Just recently, my boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me. Since that time, I have done many positive things to change my life and myself. Dear Reader, After a significant relationship has ended non-mutually, the partner who has been "dumped" often wonders about similar issues to yours. You were with your boyfriend for two and a half years, which allowed you to develop and foster a relationship in which you got to know and care for him.
Or, should I hound him to give me closure, and do I need closure? Should I ignore my feelings of being used and abused emotionally? Through some personal exploration (and reading the rest of this response), you'll learn the possible choices to help you move on.
Unfortunately, there are no simple remedies, and at times, uncomfortable feelings and regret also come along for the ride.
Regardless, some people may put a lot of blind faith into certain defined "break-up rules" in the hopes that they will feel better and move on soon.
Then you decide to move on very quickly with someone else because they make you dead happy, which is also more than OK.
Paulette goes on to say that it’s important to make sure you’re not in post-breakup mode when you get with someone else, as that could be you trying to fill that hole with a new relationship.
In fact, since this person is no longer in the picture, mulling over these posts and pictures is only going to make it that much harder for you to get over him or her.
So instead of fixating on the happenings in your ex’s life, shift this time and energy toward improving your own life.
It may just be that not enough time has passed for you to get over him... You are grieving the loss of your relationship and may still need more time to mourn.
Wouldn't it be great if there were quick cures to the "break-up blues"?