This is just a dating anniversary but we do live together and I think marriage will come in the next 5 years.
When we first get sober, we have dozens of suggestions thrown our way, and a lot of them seem silly. They tell us to get a sponsor to walk us through the steps.
They tell us not to make any major decisions our first year of sobriety.
and Christmas is coming up and the only thing he said he wants is me and a long weight lifting bar (seperatly of course) I was thinking of sending one of those edible arrangements to his work but I never know if he is driving or in the office (works for a trucking company) Any Ideas?
Going out to eat is always nice, but if you want to give him a gift, think about what he really likes to do.
Most guys are not really into that sort of thing and well they may not give you the huge smile you were looking for." Show That You Care"In this relationship my first gift was for my birthday and was a 0 spa package," told us.
"I kind of shrugged it off as impersonal and the easy way out but then realized he knew how stressed I was as a student and wanted me to have some time to myself to be pampered. " Reference Your Bond Strengthen your bond by getting your significant other something that reminds them of the two of you as a couple, like a favorite shared activity, band, or an inside joke. "The first gift I gave him was a burnt CD with all the songs that reminded me of him or had something to do with our relationship or a time we shared together where the song was playing.
I want to share with you all some of my experience as well as my point of view on the subject.
I’ll start by letting you know this, when I asked my sponsor about not dating my first year of sobriety, he looked me in the eyes and said, “Well, it doesn’t say that anywhere in the Big Book.” So, my sponsor who is a Big Book thumper was telling me that although people suggest it, there’s nothing in the program of recovery that’s outlined in the Big Book that says otherwise.
The one that seems to stick out the most is when people tell us not to get into any relationships our first year of sobriety.
If you’re like me, some of these suggestions seem silly, and it was hard for me to take suggestions from others in early sobriety, but the one about relationships carries quite a bit of weight.